4.5 // note: author uses e/em/eir (spivak) pronouns so I'm using them to refer to em in my review

I think this is a really important addition to media about genderqueer/nonbinary people. Being genderqueer myself, I think not only can gq/nb (especially if they're AFAB) people find a lot to resonate with and feel seen by, but also cis and binary trans people can hopefully gain some insight into what it's like to be genderqueer. Also, while gender remains the main focus, there was also some exploration asexuality and its interplay with gender, which again, as an a-spec genderqueer person, I really appreciated.

Of course, autobiographies are deeply personal to the author and no one's experiences are universal. I still really enjoyed it and respected when my opinions or experiences differ, but still gained a lot from eir perspective.

I seriously can't stress enough how important books like these are.

It's a 4.5 from me because I felt the ending was very abrupt and didn't really wrap up nicely, though I guess life doesn't either. I was just surprised when I turned the page and that was it. I also felt that e could have explained what asexuality is a little bit (seriously just a quick little panel or something, it wouldn't have looked out of place I promise), because some readers might not really get it/might not have even heard the term before. I'm not discounting that people can do their own research, but it's just not explored as much as the genderqueer aspect so a quick little sentence or two explaining it could have done a lot.

CW/TW: blood (period blood), moderate sexual content (not graphic, but there is discussion), mild nudity, pap smear test, some mild transphobia