Gender Queer

A Memoir

library binding, 240 pages

Published May 28, 2019 by Turtleback.

ISBN:
9781663609120

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5 stars (2 reviews)

In 2014, Maia Kobabe, who uses e/em/eir pronouns, thought that a comic of reading statistics would be the last autobiographical comic e would ever write. At the time, it was the only thing e felt comfortable with strangers knowing about em. Now, Gender Queer is here. Maia's intensely cathartic autobiography charts eir journey of self-identity, which includes the mortification and confusion of adolescent crushes, grappling with how to come out to family and society, bonding with friends over erotic gay fanfiction, and facing the trauma and fundamental violation of pap smears.

Started as a way to explain to eir family what it means to be nonbinary and asexual, Gender Queer is more than a personal story: it is a useful and touching guide on gender identity―what it means and how to think about it―for advocates, friends, and humans everywhere.

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Review of 'Gender Queer' on 'Goodreads'

5 stars

4.5 // note: author uses e/em/eir (spivak) pronouns so I'm using them to refer to em in my review

I think this is a really important addition to media about genderqueer/nonbinary people. Being genderqueer myself, I think not only can gq/nb (especially if they're AFAB) people find a lot to resonate with and feel seen by, but also cis and binary trans people can hopefully gain some insight into what it's like to be genderqueer. Also, while gender remains the main focus, there was also some exploration asexuality and its interplay with gender, which again, as an a-spec genderqueer person, I really appreciated.

Of course, autobiographies are deeply personal to the author and no one's experiences are universal. I still really enjoyed it and respected when my opinions or experiences differ, but still gained a lot from eir perspective.

I seriously can't stress enough how important books like these are. …