Männer, Männlichkeit und Liebe - Der Wille zur Veränderung

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German language

Published March 6, 2022

ISBN:
9783945543979

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5 stars (3 reviews)

„Männer können nicht lieben, wenn ihnen die Kunst zu lieben nicht beigebracht wurde. Es ist nicht wahr, dass Männer sich nicht ändern wollen. Wahr ist, dass viele Männer Angst vor Veränderung haben. Um lieben zu können, müssen Männer imstande sein, sich von ihrem Wunsch zu verabschieden, andere zu beherrschen."

bell hooks erforscht die Welt von Männern und Männlichkeit, um ihren Bedürfnissen und Verletzlichkeiten nachzuspüren, einschließlich der Angst vor Intimität und dem Verlust ihres vom patriarchalen System geprägten Platzes in der Gesellschaft. Sie stellt einfühlsam, feinsinnig und radikal dar, wie männliche Konditionierung Männer prägt und schädigt und ihnen den Zugang zu ihren Gefühlswelten verwehrt. Ihr Buch ruft auf zur Revolution der Werte, zum Abgesang auf traditionelle Männlichkeit und appelliert an uns alle, dem Ethos der Liebe zu folgen. Ein mutiger und wegweisender Text – die Wiederentdeckung einer großen Autorin.

4 editions

reviewed The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks

I am a better man after reading this book

5 stars

For most of my life, I learned and was taught about feminism. The only masculinity I ever knew about was toxic masculinity. It was refreshing to read a book about masculinity. This book is a journey that emphasizes the need to love masculinity and men. The book is fairly simple to read and understand. In fact, I had a lot of people ask me what book I’m reading and as I talked about why I’m reading it, other males were intrigued. This was my first bell hooks book that I have ever read and I’m happy it was my first. The content I read is going to help me further reach full freedom. I would recommend it to any male but also any females who are trapped under patriarchy. There’s no bibliography.

reviewed The Will to Change by bell hooks

Sure, I guess men are people too?

No rating

I was surprised by how little there was for me in this. It doesn't seem like a truly transcendental idea that men are also people who are harmed by patriarchy? I didn't feel like hooks had much to say about that, and mostly repeated herself: men have feelings and needs they can't express & explore under patriarchy, this paucity of outlets hurts men and others who relate to them, anecdotes illustrating this point and then a few recaps. Maybe I've just already done a fair bit of thinking about men and masculinity, so the core thesis of this document didn't need to inspire much new thought for me?

reviewed The Will to Change by bell hooks

Constructive

4 stars

The book is successfully tailored to a male audience. It invests way more than I expected in explaining why feminism is for men and why misandrist feminism isn't the only feminism that exists. It didn't bother me and I do think it helps setting up for success the most skeptic reader for the rest of the book. Bell Hooks also puts quite a limelight on female-on-male violence/neglect that arises from patriarchy, which was I also didn't expect but I've come to understand.

The later half of the book is increasingly repetitive and raises a few hypothesis that are food for thought but are really not factual (yet, maybe). Still, considering the lofty goal of disinfecting the male brain of dominance masculinity and everything else patriarchy related, I think the book is appropriately repetitive. Each iteration has a slight different seasoning to it anyway, so if the reader has the patience …